“Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity.”
-The Family: A Proclamation to the World
The discussion of gay marriage is a very heated one. Often names are thrown around on both sides. Before we begin I’d like to make it very clear that I am not advocating for any kind of hate to be expressed to those who choose, because of innate qualities, to have a homosexual relationship. That being said, I can still have love and respect for them without supporting gay marriage.
I’ve heard it asked, why would you care who someone else loves? My honest answer is that I don’t care all that much. Good people make decisions that I disagree with all the time and that isn’t one of the ones that I’m most concerned with. Why would I be against gay marriage then? There are a few reasons, but by far the most important one is, because of the potential impact of children. We have not seen the full effects of being raised by two mothers or two fathers on children, but I can say with certainty that any child will do their best if they are in a home with a mother and father who love them.
My husband and I have not been blessed with children yet, we are very hopeful that that day will still come, but in the meantime we will be adopting. Going through this process and the classes and certifications that are required has opened my eyes to a lot of things. In these classes we are taught about how devastating it can be for a child to be taken away from their biological parents, even when it is necessary to do so. Even children who are adopted at birth and have no memory of their birth parents experience some amount of emotional turmoil. The best case scenario for any child would be to not have their parental bonds severed.
This brings us back to the topic of same sex marriage. When two members of the same sex are legally and lawfully wedded they then have a much greater opportunity to adopt a child. That child will have, of necessity, been separated from their mom, their dad, or both parents and thrust into an unnatural situation for childrearing. Now they are not only dealing with any trauma that comes with separation, but also with the lack of either a mother or a father in the home. As a child of divorced parents I know how important each parent can be. Of course same sex couples will love their children and want the best for them, and will often be better than other alternative scenarios, but it is still not as effective as a mother and father team. A mother cannot replace a father or a father a mother. A child deserves both.
Craysy Life 